Do you ever wonder why?

Navybrat..I am worried about you...
You know what I would like you to do.
Make a list of all the good things about you, and the good things that you have in your life..I would like to see what you come up with.
Would you do that please??

very very good input and advice Dawn...

I wish I could be 31 again! it was only 6yrs ago but I'd change SO many things with the direction my life was headed at that time!

all i have to say is about number 8.

my motto is:

"when life gives you turnips, track down the SOB that stole your lemon tree, kick his ass, take the tree back, and make some lemonade. meanwhile, theyre stuck making turnipade."

LOL, girl you crazy!!

aww, slappy, you CAN be nice! lol.

whats up with the window comment?? lol.

yeah, hasn't happened to me with the window but heard it's happened to others.

and yeah, slappy is right...he has HIS slappy way of sayin it but he's right AND means well, he's just pretty BLUNT and to the point when he talks! LOL! BUT he's a cop, whaddya expect! LOL! and I mean that in the nicest way, slappy! lol!

LOL!

I have experienced many of the same things you are going through now. It is very difficult to find meaning in life when only bad or unfortunate things seem to be happening. But I agree with Slappy -- you have to choose whether to give in to all that's negative or whether to stay in the battle and come out the winner, albeit slightly the worse for wear.

I have a slightly different take on why we are here. And yes, it's a view I have based on my belief in and relationship with God. I don't believe that anyone is here on earth to simply take up space. I do believe that we are here to have opportunity to know Him and walk with Him, and to share with others how He sustains us when we go through the humanness of life.

I know you have mentioned that you are a Christian, so I believe nothing we go through is ever a wasted experience, although there have been times myself when I wanted to check out of life.

Do you have a church family? Let them know of your needs -- in every area -- and ask them to pray in earnest for your situation. As Shaybabe said, it's always great to reflect on the blessings you have, so write them down. I suggest even posting them around your house in various locations so that you are "confronted" with one whenever you feel like you can't go on.

Yes, I too, have wondered why some seem to have life so easy. Realistically, I have to come back to the point of view where I recognize that the lives others have/don't have are not my business. I can become so focused on how others are prospering that I become discontent with what I do have. And even when it seems I don't have much, I know I'm wealthy beyond measure when compared to some others.

Remember your daughter. God knows what a tremendous Mom you are, and you have a wonderful opportunity to show her perseverance, even when life isn't all that good. She will grow up knowing that, while times were tough and sometimes the love and affection were also thin, YOU DIDN'T GIVE UP. She will ALWAYS remember this.

Above all, spend time in God's Word. The Bible has the power to bring comfort, guidance, wisdom -- all of those things that we here at the peeves site try so pitifully to offer. But God's Word will bring the peace you need -- we DO love you, no matter that we wouldn't know you if we saw you on the street. YOU ARE SPECIAL TO US, but more importantly, YOU ARE SPECIAL TO GOD.

I am praying for you. Please trust God.

Dawn he will know your car, because ((AND I AM NOT BEING RACIAL, IT IS JUST A FACT)) just about evey black person with an SUV here in Texas has spinners on it. I don't think David sprung for those! LOL!

Navybrat, maybe you are not in the right surroundings. If you go to clubs to meet men, try the gym. I would rather have a man commited to his figure, than to the bottle. Go walk at the park, or get involved with a group in your area. Many singles do things like that, or as I recall, It has been a while since I was single. And in going to these meetings, not only will you meet friends, you will more than likely have a deeper kind of friendship with a person who you will feel comfortable to share things with. Be on the look out for fake or shallow people, they just bring you down. Like Nestle said, church is a good option. All though, I am a Christian, I do not regularly attend church, nor do I follow the book as I should, but I will agree if that is for you, get into a bible study. You will gain trustworthy friends through a church. Personally, I got rid of most of my friends from High School, because I realized that the majority of them were 2 faced and would stab you in the back faster than you could blink. I have learned to surround myself with positive people, because the negative ones will drag you down with them (And I can't choose my inlaws, so they don't count as my negaitve "friends", to bad though)
Your perpose on this earth is to do the best you can, to try the hardest, to live life to the fullest, be the best daughter/mother/wife/sister/friend that someone could EVER ask for, be someones helping hand, and above all don't ever give up.
If you have no family in you town, why not get a wild hair, and transfer? If your life is so "crappy" as you put it, go start a new one. Try another town, or even state. You only live once, so why not try as much as you can where ever you can. And people are not always as happy as you see them. Alot of people are fake and put us a front as far as their big house, nice car, tons of clothes...how do you know they are not swimming in debt? They might just be trying to look successful, just to have someone envy them, and trying to keep up with the Jones'...I know ALOT of people like this.
You said you are not beautiful, but have a great personality. Have you thought of changing your hair or anything like that? I am NOT saying that you need your hair changed, but when I was down, that would ususally give me a boost. I would either cut it, or change the color. Something so simple, could do so much for me. Or get your nails done, go buy a shirt, little things like that can make anyone get a confidence booster. I might sound a little superficial, and I don't mean to come across that way, but I am just trying to say that a little somethin-somethin can get you out of the pits and make you feel better.

Navybrat -clearly you are despondent and you did the right thing to reach out .. somewhere. Even if it IS here. There will always be others are are in the same situation as yourself, or have been there, and WILL be there. I feel sad that you feel as though no one is available to you. There have been many wonderful suggestions given here ... please consider some. Slappy may be blunt but has a valid point: YOU have to take control of what's going on in your life. No one can do that for you. Church is a good place to find solace and support. I don't know where you are located but if you look in your local magazines and/or newpapers, there are always listings for different types of FREE groups that offer support of some kind. I've been where you are - I promise. I am now 47 years old and have been through MORE than my share of health, occupational, emotional and marital issues. I chose to forge through them because I knew that whatever was on the other side of what I was dealing with -HAD to be better. As a newly single woman, I was stronger, more faithful to God, and had more self confidence.
Navybrat - please reach out to someone - family, classmates, clergy, HR at your workplace ( you have insurance with a Govt. job so they are required to provide you with counseling if you need it!!-AND DON'T BE TOO EMBARASSED TO ASK FOR IT!!!! THIS IS YOU WE'RE TALKING ABOUT!) Talk to God. It doesn't have to be in prayer form. He listens. Keep us posted and take care. I'm sending BIG HUGGGGGGSSSsssss right now! :)

LOL, you're right Mandy, he's got 24 in rims on HIS truck (no spinners) BUT NOT ME, but I don't care about that anyway! just makes you car more of a target for thieves!